It's a little shady

Trust me, I wish I were talking about sun relief from the branches of a mighty oak, but no-I'm not that lucky.

There are very few things that when said to me set me off. In my first marriage it was being told that I was crazy.
In my new relationship it's being told that I'm shady.

I know I am not perfect, but "shady" is not a word I would use to describe my imperfections. What makes this accusation even more annoying is that it is rarely said to my face. Rather, it's sent in a text...can I just say that I think that is in one word: shitty.

There are some things I have matured in and one lesson I have learned is I will not accept others characterizations of me that are not my truth.
 If that is their opinion or their feeling than they better preface what they are going to say using that phrasing. When it is said as I fact I will reject it by simply stating I am not....fill in the blank....

It also seems that these conversations take place after something nice is done or happens. For instance the weekend was a blast and yesterday it was my son's birthday. That evening they went home to their dad's. Every Tuesday through Friday evening my boyfriend has class, so I didn't think it a big deal that I told a girl friend of mine that during that time I could look at some baby furniture.

While in route that's when I get the text, "you are shady." My usual response would be to swallow my pride and try to pacify; deep down I'm a people pleaser.
But not this time. This time I got pissed. I responded with "I am not shady. I am not an evil woman. I am looking at baby furniture." And than I did not respond to any more texts.

And later on that evening when the "conversation" took place, it didn't end so well.

Whenever there are flowers given, or a nice weekend, or a celebratory time (like my birthday) that's when this accusation of shadiness comes up and I'm growing weary of it.
I had my spirit trampled down before I will not be down trodden again.

I am a woman, I am strong, I am love, I am friend.